how I pretty much interact with no people in person whatsoever apart from part of my immediate family (mother, mainly; father has been out of the picture since 1999 and I don't know any further relatives apart from my younger and completely moronic brother), and don't actually know anyone outside of that group either?

go out and socialize dude if you cant have fun with your family or your "moronic brother" then go out find friends HAVE FUN.

go out and socialize dude if you cant have fun with your family or your "moronic brother" then go out find friends HAVE FUN.

Right, because it'd be easy to do that in a city full of Germans who can't even speak English and not to mention obvious lack of social skills that NTAUthority has :l

 

You can always try going to some club or so, but I doubt you have a need to do so

 

Or if you went to some course/school, you would share something mutual with other people and have contact with them. Try that

Maybe some kind of German course (German course in Germany sounds dumb tho)

You don't need to, people are idiots, not as much as IRC level idiots, but idiots nonetheless. Real-life people can contribute little to a proper conversation outside of work-related talk, general chit-chat and gossip for which you do not care and other random interests of the masses. The very least, you are not a commoner, and that's a good thing.

go out and socialize dude if you cant have fun with your family or your "moronic brother" then go out find friends HAVE FUN.

 

somewhat hard considering his condition

 

also, doesn't skyping with people count as (non-in-person) interaction

go out and socialize dude if you cant have fun with your family or your "moronic brother" then go out find friends HAVE FUN.

You make it sound like it's the easiest task ever. Stop doing that.

Maybe some kind of German course (German course in Germany sounds dumb tho)

We have German courses here... Train your grammar skills ._.

You don't need to, people are idiots

This^

You don't need to, people are idiots

This^

Only to a certain degree.

Right, because it'd be easy to do that in a city full of Germans who can't even speak English

 

Most younger Germans I met spoke English quite well. I lived in Germany for three years and had very few problems with getting what I wanted and getting to where I wanted to be.

how I pretty much interact with no people in person whatsoever apart from part of my immediate family (mother, mainly; father has been out of the picture since 1999 and I don't know any further relatives apart from my younger and completely moronic brother), and don't actually know anyone outside of that group either?

 

Well at least you've got this awesome community, I know it's not a real compensation but I think it's better than nothing.

What I think is that you shouldn't feel bad about this but if you want to socialize and stuff then try to find some structures which might help you in this effort, also you should come to Cologne this summer

Instead of moaning and making everyone feel sorry for you, actually do something about it.

How about you stop being such a depressed person, get out, put a damn smile and actually have fun? Its not that hard, it really isn't. I never ever went out of my home back in the day (except for school obv) but when I did start going out I met some fun people, and language or culture is pretty much not a barrier, I usually go out these days with my friends in kashmir and eat kebabs and stuff. They can't really speak hindi and generally hostile towards anybody who might be connected to the paramilitary (my dad is in the CRPF....so), but hey, we are still good friends, and that's all there is to it.

put a damn smile

 

oh, but some people have difficulty smiling. some find no reason to smile - or rather, some find reasons to never smile at all.

 

By smile I mean that he should atleast appear to be happy. As the saying goes "Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone" You aren't gonna make a lot of friends if you are always depressed.

Well that's going to change, when you meet us in person at GamesCom

Well that's going to change, when you meet us in person at GamesCom

 

*If he meets us...

 

 

OT: I was antisocial too, I don't really know how it happened, but I'm not any more. You meet a single person, they introduce you to more, all those people introduce you to even more. In the end you find some very cool people among those you met, and you make friends with them. The more people ypu currently know, the more you'll get to know in the future, that's how it goes.

the locations people suggest to find people generally have a different audience than the specific subset I've targeted out of compensation for the 'missed years' that most of this community are currently experiencing

 

I did not have any such interest whatsoever until having been put in a position where I was forced to be among (and therefore observe) such people daily, and while my attempts to interact with those people failed horribly due to various reasons, both environmental and not (including lack of ability to discern audio with the volume levels of that location; anything just sounded like an unintelligible mess of tones to me), I started getting more and more unstable, eventually causing that experiment to fail and then other, more 'important' generally, targets to be set at a failure as described in previous posts.

 

anyway, outside of that subset I still have no interest in people whatsoever, the general audience is just too different from the way I've become myself, and that subset is only compensatory as stated. heck, even online I can't find any people that'd fit my very specific non-subset interest, as it likely does not exist at all.

I dont know how it is in Germany but I think you can join the army training(after high school, or college for a few months) , you are bound to socialise there ,if you push your body to the limit you wont feel depressed

my attempts to interact with those people failed horribly due to various reasons, both environmental and not (including lack of ability to discern audio with the volume levels of that location; anything just sounded like an unintelligible mess of tones to me

Hm and how do you feel in crowded public events like the gamescom, I mean lots of kids, loudspeakers, noise in general? Or does only the mix of interaction with similar-aged people and the environment cause instability?

Just asking because meeting the people, that you're in contact with over the internet might be not even bad if you're not forced to interact with them for a longer time.

I dont know how it is in Germany but I think you can join the army training(after high school, or college for a few months) , you are bound to socialise there ,if you push your body to the limit you wont feel depressed

 

Don't quite think that's whats best for him, considering his past experiences at a strict/controlled facility (no details).

I dont know how it is in Germany but I think you can join the army training(after high school, or college for a few months) , you are bound to socialise there ,if you push your body to the limit you wont feel depressed

._.

NTA, you are intelligent enough to set yourself different the correct levels of conversational expectations for each individual group of people. As in, it would be futile to discuss philosophy with the people who make you sandwiches at Subway or whatever venue you visit. It's how I survived in forced socialization, I just thought of the Nietzsche quote not to cast my pearls before the swine and it all became rather easy. Count to think of it, some Nietzsche might do you good. Variety in literature and media is important for a growing, active mind. I've previously spoken to you of TV, music and other media because it's good for both casual conversational topics as well as individual intellectual nurturing and growth.

 

(including lack of ability to discern audio with the volume levels of that location; anything just sounded like an unintelligible mess of tones to me),

Sounds like a VERY specific thing here, mind elaborating on this?

I dont know how it is in Germany but I think you can join the army training(after high school, or college for a few months) , you are bound to socialise there ,if you push your body to the limit you wont feel depressed

 

Don't quite think that's whats best for him, considering his past experiences at a strict/controlled facility (no details).

Yes it is , he"s 19 and socialy inactive, and its probably the only thing that can turn him around, who else will? his "moronic" brother or his mom?

I dont know how it is in Germany but I think you can join the army training(after high school, or college for a few months) , you are bound to socialise there ,if you push your body to the limit you wont feel depressed

 

Don't quite think that's whats best for him, considering his past experiences at a strict/controlled facility (no details).

Yes it is , he"s 19 and socialy inactive, and its probably the only thing that can turn him around, who else will? his "moronic" brother or his mom?

Worst idea ever

Especially when the person is physically weak.

Waste of time

why do you make depressing threads; usually all it ends up with is some solutions that generally lead to an answer from you that completely destroys that idea.

 

(although the venting of the idea may help it, past experiences have only lead to a friend completely making me look on the situation and then abolish it. but then again, above point.)